I am so tired of this. Normally I am a very collected and reasonable person but this is causing me so much anger and distress.
These new pronouns are hurting people. They are causing legitimate damage to the entire trans community, and here is why.
Your pronouns (which I use in the lightest sense of the term possible) contradict the rules of the English language. They completely defeat the purpose of pronouns, which are a universal grammatical tool. The whole purpose of pronouns is that they are not supposed to be personalized. When you personalize them they just become another name for someone. Pronouns exist so you don’t have to use the name of something every time you refer to it, just a simple word everybody will know the meaning of.
These pronouns change the subject of a sentence by replacing an actual pronoun with a reflexive noun. They are misleading and almost impossible to translate or incorporate into the language for learners. Even for someone who’s native language is English-they can easily have a learning disorder or some kind of condition which inhibits memory, in which case expecting someone to get your themed pronouns right every time is incredibly ableist. I have only seen a few people who use these pronouns recognize that.
And when they insist that their pronouns are essential to non-binary people being recognized and helping their dysphoria.
Let’s talk about how much of a necessity these pronouns are to a non-binary individual.
Don’t misinterpret that as “You don’t need non-binary pronouns”. I agree that English desperately needs an official gender neutral pronoun that is commonly recognized as singular (unlike “they/them”). I believe in recognition of genders and sexes other than strictly male/female, as rare as those other genders and sexes may be.
But pronouns such as “bun/bunself” or “sprout/sproutself” do not even serve to alleviate dysphoria, considering the do not recognize the sex one wishes to be recognized as, just the noun in its reflexive form as said noun. You do not need to be called an animal to cope with sex dysphoria. (Disclaimer: I’m not trying to disrespect otherkin. Being recognized as a certain species and as a certain sex are very different things.)
What happens when I, as a binary trans person, or even when some nonbinary people, are not referred to by the correct gender pronouns?
For me, I cry. I have trouble breathing. I dissociate from my body. I become unresponsive. My mental illnesses are triggered and my body becomes more alien than it normally feels to me, just like that.
And as someone who legitimately suffers from usage of incorrect pronouns, I would like to say that the idea that these all of these pronouns are necessary makes a complete joke out of the hell me and thousands of other people go through on a daily basis.
We do not ask for certain pronouns to be used just for the hell of it. We don’t need our pronouns simply to be comfortable and feel cute. We need them to survive.
You do not.
Being called “they” instead of fae is not invalidating your gender, and it is certainly not more “othering” then asking to be called one of these new pronouns, because it is a term all English speakers are familiar with and use daily. It is still a personal recognition of your desire to be labeled as neither male/female.
Don’t go thinking this is something that impacts all nonbinary people positively. In fact, many of them are pretty pissed off about it too. It is also transphobic and transmisogynistic.
These “pronouns” make the whole of trans people look like people who are only pursuing transition to feel cute and “comfortable”, even if the people using them have no issue with their sex whatsoever.
These pronouns and their promotion is tearing down all the work that trans activists have put so much time and even the risk of their personal safety and lives into, just to ensure that trans people are not invalidated through incorrect pronoun usage.
Your “social justice” is damaging the very minority group that you are advocating for.
Can you honestly say that justice is being served, even now?
If you support these pronouns, I would recommend getting off the computer and doing a very heavy amount of thinking and reconsideration regarding the implications of your movement and how much it has really done to hurt the cause of human rights.